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The Basics of Understanding Your Child
In
most cases, parents become hard and strict with their children. They scold and
reprimand them for their behavior and in the end become sorry for doing so.
Responsible parenthood entails understanding your child. Here are some tips on
how you can succeed in this aspect of parenthood.
Get To Know Your Children
When
you have the time, individually talk to each of your children. Tell them about
traits that are unique to them. By doing so, a special bond with your child is
established. This way, you will be able
to understand them better.
Having
the time to communicate with your child is crucial to becoming a responsible
and successful parent. At the same time, it will help you in guiding your child
as they mature.
It
is worthwhile. The payoff is the intimate knowledge of whom your child is,
which lays the foundation for the guidance you offer them.
Treat Your Child According To Their
Nature
Since
your child is unique from each other, you need to treat them separately. What
is applicable to one may not be the same with the other. The philosophy
one-size-fits-all is not exactly applicable in this case. Doing so will create
some problems with your relationship with your children.
You
need to tailor your actions and treatment according to the nature of each
child. It is important to train your child according their nature so they would
not forget it even if they become old, which is what the Proverbs say.
Criticize Their Traits, Not Behavior
When
reprimanding, criticize your child for the personality trait that led to the
inappropriate behavior and not for their action. As the saying goes, you need
to trim the root and not the fruit. Ignoring the trait that causes the bad
choice can lead to similar results in the future.
Do
not rebuke your child but concentrate on the trait that led them to do such
action. The action may not be bad but it is what caused such behavior. The
resulting behavior may have been the right one based on the bad trait so the
latter is what you need to correct.
As
a parent, you need to determine the real cause of the problem by rooting out
the bad trait that led to the wrong action. This is only possible when you have
an understanding of your child.
Praise Your Child for Their Action
On
the other hand, the handling of a good personality trait should be positive.
However, do not relate them to their action as this could pressure them to
establish their goodness by constantly doing well. In the process, they could
wear themselves down.
Bear
in mind that your child has endowment of innate personalities. They will remain
in your child so you need to harness them appropriately. Every one of us has
our own tendencies, whether innate or developed through experience. We are not
responsible for them but our liability is with our actions.
Teach Your Child To Harness Their
Character
When
it comes to personality traits, there are always two sides to it: positive and
negative. Not getting angry is a positive character but it can also turn out to
be a negative trait.
As
a parent, you are responsible for teaching your child learn about their primary
character traits as well as the strengths and challenges that they offer.
Helping them understand their own personality traits can last a lifetime.
By
following these tips, you will be able to master the skill of understanding
your child and in the process ensure a harmonious relationship with your child.
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How to Understanding Your Child.
Understanding
your child is one of the most important things that you should learn as a
parent. It is very helpful in becoming effective in guiding and nurturing your
child as they grow and mature. You need to bear in mind that your child has a
unique personality trait that remains consistent throughout life.
One
of the ways you can understand your child is by observing them as they sleep,
eat, or play. Look for the consistent traits. Which activities do they like
best? Is adjusting to changes easy for them or do they need time to become
familiar with these things? These things are the normal characteristics of a
child and your child may not be an exception.
As
much as possible, have time to talk to your children, as this is crucial to
gaining information and understanding. In the case of young children, they
require less verbal language and more facial expression and body language in
order to understand their thoughts and feelings. Asking them questions will
allow them to share their feelings to you.
For
example, rather than asking them what they did in school; ask them what they
built with their blocks today. Instead, of asking them if they played with
their playmate, focus on the game they played.
Another
way of understanding your child is by looking at their environment in order to
learn about a certain behavior that you have observed. Relatives, childcare
providers, friends, teachers, the community, the home setting, and other
aspects of the environment can play a crucial role in the behavior of your
child. For example, if your child is showing aggressiveness towards other
children at school, you may want to find out all the possible sources of their
aggressive behavior.
Some
possible angles would be their association with another child who is showing
aggressive tendencies as well. The environment at home is another possible
source for such behavior. Have there been conflicts and arguments at home
lately that your child there watching? These are some angles, which you should
consider when trying to find the reason behind your child's aggressive
behavior.
In
addition, you can learn about your child by observing other children belonging
to the similar age group. You can check out books, browse the Internet, and
attend a class about child development. Bear in mind that you went through the
same stages as a child so more or less the behavior of children in that same
stage would be similar. However, the speed of development through each stage is
a personal thing.
By
understanding your child's development, you will be able to provide them with
opportunities as well as toys that can boost their development and prepare them
for the next phase of their growth. At the same time, you as a parent would be
able to set expectations and limits that are acceptable to your child.
Being
a responsible parent is hard especially currently when parents spend more time
working rather than being with their kids. Quality time is difficult to achieve
when you are trying to juggle your time between corporate life and parenthood.
Not many people achieve success in parenthood and this could be frustrating on
your part. Understanding your child is one effective way of becoming successful
in the art of parenting.
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